Did he actually love me? And adding alcohol to the mix definately doesn't help. A lot. musician | 7 views, 0 likes, 0 loves, 0 comments, 1 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Gee Broadcasting Corporation: Our Guest is Kahnma Karnga. Now if he went to a place like that by himself I woudl worry something was up for 2 reasons. He even texts me when he is out, and calls or texts when he gets home. He has the right to have a life, gosh. Do the same to him hun. Anyways, so he is going out with him tonight, and I am trying my hardest to have faith and trust in him. Its not in my personality to go to a bar alone.but I have gone out to the bar with some girlfriends and/or my SIL. Learn to trust your partner. Also, there can be some exceptions and ultimately, you and your partner probably know your relationship best, so just because they've done one of these things before doesn't necessarily mean that they're done with you or have completely checked out. And my husband does not have a problem with it. Yes, if you've provided all the details. He wanted to go to bars CONSTANTLY. And now he was at a party and he messaged me around 9 pm telling he loved me. You know honestly im sure it depends on the person. I had an ex bf from years ago. 2. The good thing about that is when he turns M. on or says sexy things to M., I don't have to turn him down and I get to go home with him! You have a good one it appears. justagirl09January 22, 2012 in Trust and Relationships. Emotional or physical affairs are not okay in my book. He should be calling you My kuwait he text me day and night but no telphone call. Ok, he went out without your permission, I mean, without notifying you. We have no problem with this and neither do most of the couples among our friends. The "New Age" opinion. "[I]f you find your partner making excuses to not have sex and instead they pleasure themselves or watch porn, this may be a sign something is up with your relationship," Hershenson says. Maybe you happen to have a lot of bi-sexual friends. Smackin' The ex's butt toward swinging floor. You know the one that is filled with mostly guys, laid back and where everyone knows everyone and if you don't you will by the time you walk out and people cheer when you walk in the door? Ask him like if he could give you some pictures of beautiful places, or video calls you so it feels like you are there together. You may develop an issue with it. Traveling for work aside, if your partner tries to leave you behind, that's probably not a great sign. By the time my husband and I got married, we were so done with bars/clubs/discos (this was the 80's). It's not that we can't go out, we J. don't want to. LDR's are hard for both parties but your boyfreind sounds selfish and callous. (and the funny thing is, in our relationship, I'm the one who's far more likely to go out by myself.). Then ask yourself if he really cares what you do. Karmic Relationships: What They Are & When To Leave, According To Experts, 5-Ingredient Meals That Everyone In The Family Will Love, 30 Women's History Month Facts That'll Remind You How Badass Women Are, 8 Black-Owned Parenting & Baby Brands To Try, What Parents Are Talking About Delivered Straight To Your Inbox, By subscribing to this BDG newsletter, you agree to our. Having a "Guys" night. And yes, we've been hit and and continued to be bothered even AFTER we've told them we're married. Right now, it seems he's being attentive to your needs. I am in a similar situation right now and I'm pulling my hair out. Now I don't know how he would feel or a possible future boyfriend would feel. Method 2 Keeping Yourself Occupied 1 Organize a night out with your own friends. If you're secure and you have a personality, you should largely be able to fend for yourself at a family function. So drinking isn't something we *enjoy* doing. to M. if there is an air of "i am free, i do what i want, hey you're interesting, i'll talk to you!" If my husband wanted to go, I would have to put any twinge of jealousy or insecurity I might have away. To a bar he goes to frequently and before he met with you, would meet up with a lot of girls, some of which are a lot younger and they still frequent this bar. Hope your ok x. Tech Organizer. As soon as he is off the phone he jumps up and yells lets party. Seriously . ? Why boyfriend doesn't call? We are individuals sharing the same goals in relationship. So, on both ends of things, no worries. 1. It is just very hard, because I am deathly afraid of being cheated on. 3. Troy loves M. and only M., he wants only M., you put him in a room with naked women he would have the most uncomfortable look on his face. It was a relief not going anymore. I think if your spouse or boyfriend does mind you doing that, that is what is important.not what others think. I just know in my heart, I cannot be in another situation like I was with my ex, ever again. And I have to laugh at that "allowed to go out without your boyfriend" line you posted.sounds like that fellow wouldn't have been good boyfriend material, even if you had been single! my boyfriend goes out all night and doesnt call or text me at all..we are in a long distance relationship and the next day he gives me excuses like i was "too drunk" and passed out. Plus it's annoying for the fellas to have that one guy who's always checking in. The cost should be reasonable, or if not, that money can go to a nice trip for the both of you or for your family trip. He stays out all night and turns the ringer off, pfffft. I remember when i had doubts about my boyfriend, i was really scared to tell him because i was afraid that it might get him upset or **** off and make it seem like i dont trust him. Best Sex Positions to Improve Your Sex Life. We met online and rea Why does he text me all day about sweet things and stuff but never call? BTW I can say that the majority of women I know are attracted to women as well (even if they don't act on it) so should they be banned from everyone=)Advertisementif(typeof ez_ad_units != 'undefined'){ez_ad_units.push([[320,50],'mamapedia_com-box-3','ezslot_4',679,'0','0'])};__ez_fad_position('div-gpt-ad-mamapedia_com-box-3-0');if(typeof ez_ad_units != 'undefined'){ez_ad_units.push([[320,50],'mamapedia_com-box-3','ezslot_5',679,'0','1'])};__ez_fad_position('div-gpt-ad-mamapedia_com-box-3-0_1'); .box-3-multi-679{border:none !important;display:block !important;float:none !important;line-height:0px;margin-bottom:5px !important;margin-left:auto !important;margin-right:auto !important;margin-top:5px !important;max-width:100% !important;min-height:50px;padding-bottom:20px !important;padding-top:20px !important;text-align:center !important;}. My boyfriend does this most weekends but worse promises to make plans with me then chooses to go out drinking instead turns off his phone or ignores me and stays out all weekend then comes running back always with excuses we spoke about this several times about how it upsets me to be waiting for him and then I hear nothing until the next day or 3 days later he doesn't even tell me half the time he is cancelling on me I don't even know where he is half the time so if it gets to that stage you are in trouble it is emotional torture. I love my wife dearly, but I wouldn't go to a bar or restaurant with a member of the opposite sex alone. He needs to tell you everything that He does ? My advice - Hangout with your friends, go places that interest you without him and make sure he knows your having fun without him but don't rub it in his face. I guess I J. don't see how going to a bar solo and getting into situations where there's lots of alcohol, music and men are hitting on you/questioning your relationship can be very good at all for your current relationship. answers from Chicago on October 30, 2008. Would you or should I be bothered by the fact that she seems to want to go there without me? I arrived alone and I left alone. It's totally not like that. He asked it so much I feel he was thinking I was lying to him. When guys go to strip clubs to ogle "hot . You know that your a girl. You have to trust that he's just enjoying the company of his bros: drinking beers, talking smack and telling dirty jokes. It's good "guy" time doesn't bother M. Now, if it was a strip club he was going to, my answer would then be no :). So, with that being said, if he wants to go out with his buddy once a week, its fine. but i would if i wanted to. (Even if we've J. To avoid another broken heart caused by dating insecure men, here are 15 signs of insecurity to watch out for. I think it's fantastic you are stretching yourself out of your comfort zone. But even if I could go out it wouldn't be to a bar. My husband likes to have a beer or two so he does go to the local dive bars with the guys after work. Yes. We ended up J. being friends. So she keeps sending snapchats.. but wont text/call me. It's his choice whether he visits strip clubs, and you're also entitled to your feelings about it. I did. You still can go out. If it was a few hours I'd be fine but he goes off grid for like 10/12 hours at a time and then texts to say his phone died, or he left it at home etc should I be questioning this? Even in a long distance relationship, especially, in a long distance relationship, there has to be respect for trust to continue. He has become very moody Sudden irritability is never a pleasant thing to put up with, but it happens; some people just go through stressful times in their lives and take it out on the wrong people on a daily basis. Here's the thing he knows you are uncomfortable with it, doesn't push it with you, and you still gave him the green light. My Long Distance Girlfriend won't video call with me. Started January 23, By She was always open about it, never tried to hide it, and if I asked if she had a good time she would tell me about it. I think this can be a real issue for quite a few people and can be very problematic adjusting or coming to grips with, even though there is no reason not to trust. I feel any interactions should be allowed but also feel that if you're in a committed relationship and someone has an issue with a particular person your relationship comes first obviously and while you won't be "controlled" by your spouse you should definitely take their opinion into account and compromise and adjust behavior accordingly. I would never do anything to hurt him and it makes me feel really appreciative that he knows and trusts that. he always blames it on being wasted and passing out. It would be one thing if your SO is telling you where you can and cannot go. So my boyfriend is becoming much more distant as of late. Although it's good for your relationship for both your and your partner to do things without the other person, some of the specific things that they (or you) do alone can actually give you some insight into how they're feeling about the relationship. I think once you are older and in a serious committed relationship - especially if kids are involved - those days are kinda over. ahhh thats the one=) I haven't been there since January so it was a nice change. But not everyone would know the difference. Like myself. Now I am talking about a friend that I talk on the phone to and interact regularly with. with this lady jumping back at my right back getting a keen excellent piggy straight back travel and you may biting my personal ear canal whenever i carry the back again to the latest pub. However, I understand about being concerned that he gets drunk, maybe has problems w/self-control.. But the. But he lets M. dance with who ever when we go out J. so he doesn't have to get out on the floor. You have to put trust into each other. I guess I'm J. a prude, then, because I believe there are better places to hang out than bars and that if you are married or committed and have children, your time is better spent with them. My husband and his friends will have a "guys" weekend once a year. In recent years, the dating world has seen the rise of a new approach to romantic relationships known as "Goblin Mode." aweeeeeeee you're bf sounds amazing ! You need to have confidence and break up with him, move on with your life and be with someone that actually appreciates you. We dont live together, we arent married. the next morning he said he was wasted with a bunch of his friendsand hes not the type to cheat on a girl, but who know what can happen when their drunk you know? My husband will not go out to bars or clubs without M., he thinks it is wrong and makes him uncomfortable.in his defense he is devilishly handsome and gets hit on like no one I have ever seen, so I get where he is coming from. but things he says or does make you feel bad about yourself - and you can't really figure out why. khairete He never mentions any friends and doesn't. Luckily for us both, neither of us are the 'bar/club going on a regular basis' kind of people. Do I flirt? He is showing all the signs of lost interest. Some people trust because they are good people and lack experience and it's just the right thing to do. Going To A Bar Alone Is Cool If It's Just Temporary. Often she would be out till 2am or so.. Sorry - J. reality in my world - you haven't made a LIFETIME commitment to your boyfriend - hence the fact he is bf and not dh. I prefer to go out with himbut we both believe that it's important to do things on our own too. I have talked to too many girls and guys that bitterly recalled how one drink too many let their inhibitions lower enough that they got too huggy and hormones took over ending a relationship. And you allow that? Of course I was a little disappointed but then he got mad and I had to accept it because I didn't want to lose him. I see people there I know, sometimes men, sometimes J. the servers. But if your out. Don't make the same mistake I did. Just tonight I decided if we are going to have a future together, I need to give him his time to himself and not bombard him with texts. I personally would not do that. CinnamonRoll He helped make me feel comfortable in gay nightlife and, eventually by extension, being gay in everyday life. I have not a single reason to? I want him to be with M. because he wants to, not because he isn't allowed to go and meet anybody else. He is very trusthworthy and honest, etc. Not my style. But I get it. I've never been into the bar scenebut my fiancee doesn't get upset if I want some "M." time. Can Guys Just Be Friends with Girls? Just like the celebs when they have to kiss in movies, its nothing real, they still truly love their husbands/wives. When youre in a relationship you dont just change the rules. It's okay to relax. Get a shock collar too so if steps out line you can zap him. Track his every move know what he is doing all the time put a tracking chip on him shut up!! My husband works at a bar on the weekends. As I mentioned above, he may just need some time to himself. SO to your question. What does it mean when a man call & text you several times every day eventh My Boyfriend doesn't like if I call him from his name. he'll want me to stay in touch with him when I go outbut then once he goes out its MIA for hours and hours. my boyfriend and i are long distance and i'm in college. Anyone that cant handle that isnt ready for a real relationship. Boyfriends are different than husbands. Holy crap youre a dick. Answer: I think you'll both be happier if you let her go out with friends within reason, of course. Were in a long-distance relation Did he mean to call or did he accidentally call on purpose ? Not just change the rule without saying something and then she can choose to keep playing or quit. What I'd really prefer though is to go out with a few drinks with HIM! 2023 BDG Media, Inc. All rights reserved. That's why I wouldn't go out to a bar without my SO. Ive broken up with him 3 times in the 6 yrs we`ve been together, But always take him back cos im a (sad) and lonely single mom. They are in a long distance relationship and that's not about sitting at home, missing and texting each other 24/7, gosh. He goes to bed without me (20 f) now and we sleep back to back. But my husband trusts M.. "Breaking up evokes a lot of really strong emotions in people," Dr. Freitag explains. I did indeed go and sit next to people I hadn't seen in months including some single men and proceeded to hug and be picked up by every guy I knew (oh how I love this bar, I'm 6 foot- so its rare to get the hug where people pick you up in the air and you get to feel like a girl lol) so anyway I do this every so often (usually once a month when my boyfriend has his Irish meeting, we'll take one car after dropping Emmy off with her dad, and I'll go here while he does his meeting) and usually my boyfriend will meet M. out or I will meet him out at some point in the night and we'll hang out with friends and have fun, but for a good portion I'm happily talking to whoever I want to, not gender biased or relationship status biased. AskMen, Become a Better Man, Big Shiny Things, Mantics and guyQ are among the federally At some point it stop all of us out of here undertaking 2am. Um, not if you don't let it. what do I do? They threaten to break up with you all the time. We agreed that going out alone with single people of the opposite sex is giving off the wrong impression that there might be something going on even though there isn'tso we don't do it. "There's nothing wrong with getting drinks with coworkers or going out for a guys/girls night with friends," Herring says. Also, you've officially met a women who has no attraction whatsoever to other women!! I occasionally go to after work happy hour with a big group of co-workers. I think that he asked that question confirms why you have your specific boyfriend and why that guy is not said boyfriend. Wouldn't dream of it. They got married a year later. that is the last message i want to send. And I kinda think your J. as likely to get picked up having a coffee at starbucks. Luckily for us both, neither of us are the 'bar/club going on a regular basis' kind of people. But there's obviously cases where the spouse is comfortable with the environment like you described J. M. so I don't see an issue. 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